The Surprisingly Simple "Communication Toolbox" Couples in Extraordinary Relationships Use...
to Create and Keep Connection, Intimacy, and Passion Alive
...And How you can use these incredible tools to feel completely understood, effortlessly talk about difficult issues (without fighting), and create The Relationship You've Always Wanted!
discover The "Almost Backwards" Communication Secrets ANYONE Can use to energize their relationship...
even if:
– you are completely different from your partner...
– frequently argue or are disconnected from each other...
– haven't had passion in years...
– Have differences in sex drives...
– have unresolved (past or present) issues in the relationship...
Hi, my name is Sam Tielemans, and I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
At my clinic, we get about 100 calls a month, and 90% of the people who reach out tell me they have problems with communication…
…and the approach they are using is running their relationship into the ground (and sadly most couples use it...)
We all know that communication is fundamental to a great relationship.
But there are different TYPES and purposes of communication…
And when you use the wrong type in your romantic relationship, it’s the kiss of death to the love and excitement that was once there.
For instance, there is a type of communication that colleagues use to get a project done at work, a type that friends use to have fun together, and a type that parents use to instill values and give direction to their kids…
...but the type that most people dream of having in their relationship is what I call
Connection-Centered Communication...
It’s so desirable and crucial to relationship success because it can instantly trigger feelings of intimacy, connection, passion, love, and closeness.
The good news is that these communication strategies work in ANY relationship.
However, most people have NO IDEA what it looks like, let alone understand the principles of how to actually apply it in their own relationship…
I didn’t always know about this type of communication either…
And my clients unfortunately suffered because they didn’t get the help that they needed from me early on in my career...
I still remember from years ago one of the first couples I ever worked with while I was a student therapist...
...because it was a disaster.
During this session, the wife was sitting there crying and frozen in her emotions...
I tried to engage her...
Nothing...
She just stared at the floor, overwhelmed in pain...
"Susan.. What's happening for you right now?" I asked..
Silence...
Her husband had no idea what to do or how to comfort her, and frankly, neither did I...
It's embarrassing to admit...
...but I got up and drew something on the whiteboard in the office so I could try to explain whys he was feeling the way she was (wrong form of communication...)
It was a wreck...
She was misunderstood and felt unimportant and unloved by her husband, so she'd be upset and lash out in anger...
He'd shut down and withdraw, avoid conversations with her, distance himself and would get hopeless and feel like a failure...
They had no idea how to communicate in the way that sparked the intimacy and love they craved...
The sad truth is that I wasn't equipped to help them at that stage in my career.
They didn't come back to see me for too much longer, and I couldn't blame them...
So I dived in and consulted with experts and asked countless questions, met in supervision groups, went to workshop after workshop...
...and through it all I discovered the principles of this little-known approach to communication, and it was completely counter intuitive
This approach was almost too simple and could have been easy to overlook...
But as I met with my couples, I gave it a shot to see what would happen...
And to my amazement...
The results that I saw were so powerful
It was astonishing for me to witness the kind of growth that these couples were seeing in such a short amount of time!
I got so excited about this discovery!
I began to apply the principles of Connection-Centered Communication with every couple who came in...
And it worked over and over again with lots of different couples!
This communication approach worked for them even if they were struggling with:
– Low libido and mismatched Sex Drives or desires...
– financial stress...
– Frequent arguing or fighting
– feeling like they were always on different pages
– having different hobbies or interests...
– excessive screen or video game time...
– Differences in parenting...
– Infidelity or broken trust...
– Not getting enough help around the house or with the kids...
– And so much more...
Not only did Connection-Centered Communication help create a feeling of true intimacy, excitement, love, and passion back in the relationship...
It helped them actually resolve these difficult issues they had been facing without a resolution (sometimes for years!)
And when you know how to communicate in the language of the heart and emotion, it instantly creates this magnetic attraction that you can’t help but WANT to be around...
...It's the kind of energy that's intoxicating, the type of connection that makes you feel amazing.
That means that 9 out of 10 couples are able to:
- Actually be IN LOVE again!
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Spend quality time together that's fun and exciting
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Cultivate a deep sense of intimacy and connection in all areas
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Can communication openly, feel understood and loved
- Reignite their passion and have a satisfying and fulfilling sex life
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Have a foundation of trust, honesty and respect for one another
Most couples have no idea how to get beneath the surface level and resolve the root of the problem, so they end up having same fights over and over again...
The less you know about how to connect with your partner, the more your relationship erodes away by the negative cycles you get stuck in...
...The good news is that ANYONE can learn these get-to-the-core communication skills (in a very short amount of time) once they are handed the step-by-step blueprint.
So... what would it be worth to you to have
the relationship of your dreams...?
The Connection-Centered Communication system is easily worth over $5,000.
Think about it...
A proven formula to create connection, have the relationship you've always dreamed of, and be excited every single day about the person you were with?
Easily worth $5,000 or more...right?
I have clients in my private practice who literally pay $5,000 to work with me for 12 weeks so I can personally guide them through my program.
They want to feel connected and excited in their relationships again, and the Connection-Centered Communication framework shows them how to get that result.
Now, I can only see so many clients face-to-face, but literally tens of millions of people need these tools...
So I created an online training where I walk you step by step through how to communicate in the way that instantly sparks connection, intimacy, and love in your relationship...
It's over 4 hours of video trainings and bonuses that you get instant access to.
In this training, I go over everything:
- The blueprint to trigger connection, intimacy on all levels, and fulfillment in your relationship.
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How to communicate effortlessly and be completely understood by your partner
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The magic ingredient that keeps a relationship fresh and exciting (no matter how long you're together)
- The best approach to discuss difficult subjects have been avoided unresolved from the past...
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How to create the spark and have an amazing sex life together
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The #1 way to unite with your partner and be a strong team together (even if you disagree on things)
Instead of paying $5,000 for this system, I want to share it with you at just a fraction of the cost...
In fact, it's LESS that what it costs to work with me for a single session...
I want you to go through all of the content, trainings, videos and templates and test them out for yourself. If you feel like they didn't help you find safety and peace, then simply email support@healingcouples.org for a full, no-hassle guarantee.
My #1 priority is that you find the healing that you need, so I want you to try these tools out completely risk free.
So... You might be wondering...
How does this work exactly? and What is
connection-Centered Communication?
Connection-Centered Communication is an approach that is specific for romantic relationships.
It is different than other forms of communication and it has a totally different purpose.
It’s main purpose is to create feelings of love, attraction, closeness, and fulfillment.
All of the other types of communication have a DIFFERENT purpose and use…
And when you use the wrong one for your romantic relationship, it causes fights, disagreements, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings.
Some of the other types of communication include:
Educating...
Motivating...
Leading...
Parenting...
…and perhaps the most commonly used approach in romantic relationships is "problem-centered communication"...
And if this is your default approach, then your excitement, passion, and connection are on a crash course to breaking down...
It's just a matter of time…
lead to a breakdown in the relationship?
Because we are in relationships because we want to be connected and feel close to our partner.
Using problem-centered, or any of the other types of communication, doesn't create feelings of love!
It simply creates insights, a-ha moments, and a cognitive understanding of a point of discussion.
Does that mean that you should never discuss the issues that are happening in the relationship?
Of course we need to address challenges in our relationships...
...but it's not WHAT you do, it's HOW you do it.
Connection-Centered Communication helps couples quickly get connected and on the same team together...
THEN you can solve challenges together almost instantly!
...Reversing the order and focusing on the problems first will RUIN a relationship...
It leaves people feeling hollow and empty and fighting because conversations devolve from discussing an issue into attacking each other, the silent treatment, shutting down, and lashing out...
well... How can i know if I'm using the wrong communication approach...?
If you're experiencing any of these symptoms, then you're using the wrong approach:
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You talk about how you're feeling but your partner tries to fix it (or you), goes into problem-solving mode, and it leaves you feeling frustrated and misunderstood...
- Disagreements or conflict leads to feeling unimportant, unloved, inadequate, sad, and alone...
- Difficult subjects are avoided and issues are swept under the rug and are unresolved...
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If your sex life is dull, uninspiring, and lacks the spark you once had...
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Blaming and defensiveness are common reactions...
- You explain things over and over again to your partner but they still don't get it...
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You feel distance, resentment, or like you and your partner are on different pages...
Learning how to speak to the heart is tHE MOST important skill you can master in a relationship!
In other words... People get INTO relationships for emotional reasons, and they BREAK UP for emotional reasons...
Being emotionally connected is the experience of feeling in love, attraction, being desired, having close intimacy with your partner, and being on the same team together.
It's so important because connection is FUNDAMENTAL to a strong, happy, and fulfilling relationship!
...and without it, your relationship will decay...
So here's what you're going to get when you get started with the Effortless Communication Masterclass today...
Inside the Effortless Communication Masterclass, you’re going to get FIVE training sessions (and over 4 hours of step-by-step instruction and bonuses) to help you learn and master Connection-Centered Communication.
These sessions will take you through the exact process I use to guide couples to heal their relationship, reignite the spark of connection and passion in their relationship, and develop a deep sense of intimacy and love together...
Effortless Communication Masterclass
Session #1:
The Magic Ingredient
to a Fulfilling and Connected Relationship
Here's a key thing that most couples don't realize...
In order to have the relationship of your dreams, it doesn't actually matter how different you and your partner are or how much you disagree on things...
The #1 Thing You need...
Is to know how to
connect with each other
The easier you and you partner can connect, the quicker you can get back to being happy, enjoying each other's company and feeling close to one another.
The first training inside your masterclass will help you to know the KEY to what makes a relationship thrive.
I'll show you:
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The most important element of a relationship that is ON FIRE with positive and exciting energy.
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The crucial building blocks that CREATE connection with your partner (every time) so you end arguments, completely avoid fights, and be on the same page together.
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How you can dissolve nearly EVERY problem in your relationship and find a path to solving difficult issues in a way that both of you feel great about.
Effortless Communication Masterclass
Session #2:
The #1 Shift to Completely transform your relationship
One of the most exhausting things of using the wrong form of communication in our relationships is that it nearly always leads to either fighting and arguments or silence and distance...
Too many people avoid discussing difficult topics because they are afraid they will cause a fight, so they just sweep things under the rug and things stay unresolved.
But what if you knew EXACTLY hOW to communicate in a way where you each felt heard and understood?
You'd be able to easily resolve any disagreement or come together to solve any problem if you knew you would feel closer together after you discuss it...
What if I handed you the framework and the steps to communicate so clearly and effectively that every time you and you partner spoke, it was a chance to grow even closer together?
In this lesson, I'll show you:
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The fastest and easiest way to completely sidestep a fight and ignite intimacy and closeness instead.
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How to communicate in a way that unites you and your partner, no matter what the topic of discussion is.
- The 'perfect formula' to be completely understood by each other so you can see where you're both coming from and have your point of view validated.
- How to automatically trigger compassion and love in the moments when you need support and care the most.
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The best way to leverage Connection-Centered communication to have peace and harmony in the home.
Effortless Communication Masterclass
Session #3:
The Proven blueprint for conversations that heal
This section is so important!!
Why?
Because in a relationship, we all get our feelings hurt at one time or another...
Have a blueprint to follow is CRUCIAL if you want to have tough conversations about things that have hurt you...
Without a clear framework, you're likely going to end up rehashing the past (again), cause a negative response in your partner, and still stay stuck with all the pain.
There is such a better way to approach things. In this lesson, you'll discover:
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The 1# thing you need in order to totally resolve a current or past experience that hurt you.
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How you can leave the past in the past (and feel perfectly good about it) and never have it continue to pop up over and over again.
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How to naturally draw your partner closer to you when you're feeling the most vulnerable and in need of support.
- The clear path to dissolve pain and move forward feeling even more united (no matter how deep or painful a bad experience was between you).
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Rebuild and solidify trust between you and increase the security and safety in the relationship.
Effortless Communication Masterclass
Session #4:
How to effortlessly get your needs met
We all go through an ebb and flow of relationship excitement, passion and closeness...
But what if you knew how to continually spark intimacy, passion, and fun anytime you wanted it?
It's so important in a relationship to know how to our needs met and know how to meet our partner's needs as well.
When we feel like our needs are met, it brings us satisfaction, fulfillment and happiness, and it makes us want to be there for our partner even more, which just continues the cycle of positive growth.
In this lesson, I share with you how to go deeper together and develop unshakable confidence in your partner and have strong foundation of safety and strength.
You'll discover:
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The differentiating factor between a relationship that is just surviving and one that is THRIVING and happy.
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The step-by-step process to get your needs met from your partner in a way that inspires them to WANT to be there for you.
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The little-understood core needs that we all have (and when they are met, our relationship satisfaction goes off the chart!)
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How to ask for support and comfort without feeling needy, clingy, or uncomfortable.
Effortless Communication Masterclass
Session #5:
The key to a satisfying and passionate sex life
The research is clear that it's couples with the greatest degree of commitment have the most fulfilling sex life.
The length of time you're with the same person doesn't actually decrease the excitement and satisfaction of sex, rather the longer you're with each other, the better it can be!
In this lesson, you'll discover:
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How to have the strong, burning passion you once had early in the relationship, along with the long-term love and understanding.
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The number #1 thing that a woman needs in order to be turned on and have an increased desire for sex.
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The key to reignite the passion, fun and sense of adventure in your sex life.
- How to navigate differences in desire so both people are able to get their needs met.
- How BOTH partners can experience a fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationship.
- The way to feel desired and wanted by your partner.
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How to develop deep intimacy both in and out of the bedroom.
- HUGE Bonus #1:
It's so important that you know that you're not doing this alone!
As a special bonus, I'm giving you access to a private Facebook community for 4 weeks where you can post your questions and get help for me to implement the material to help you solve the specific challenges YOUR relationship.
Every week I do a LIVE Q&A session so I will be there right alongside with you as you strengthen and improve your relationship.
Each week, you will get:
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Support in guidance for me so you know exactly how to navigate specific challenges you’re having.
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Live Q&A sessions every week where we can interact and I can give additional tools to help you specifically
- Additional thoughts and information about how to continue to make progress in your relationship, whether it’s about connection, communication, intimacy, or any other challenges you might want some help with.
- HUGE Bonus #1:
Many people are in relationship with someone who might not be as involved with getting outside tools and support to help improve the relationship..
But with this training, you'll get the guidance, tools, and direction you need so you know exactly how to approach things in your relationship in a way that has an influence on your partner, so you can improve the marriage without their full participation with you in the program.
In this training, you'll learn:
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How to approach your partner if they don't really like opening up or talking about how they feel.
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What you should say and avoid saying in order to resolve issues that come between each of you.
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How to use Heart-Centered Communication in your relationship, even if you partner isn't doing it with you
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The way to talk about emotions that don't cause your partner to disengage and avoid.
- HUGE Bonus #2:
He didn’t mean to cause an issue, but how he phrased his text hurt her feelings...
So I jokingly told him to give me his phone, and I responded to her for him so I could clear things up.
The reason why I did that was because I have the perfect formula that I share with my clients that immediately stops the fighting, and I wanted to help him out because it was a total accident that his wife was upset..
I wrote a few lines, followed formula, and then I sent her the message.
It quickly diffused the situation and they went back to joking around with each other and ended the conversation on a really positive note.
I then told him the formula and shared exactly how he can duplicate the same approach then next time something like this happens again...
And now, I want to give those steps to you!
Whether you accidentally say something that bothers your partner...
Or if you have a hard time talking productively about difficult challenges or issues because they devolve into a fight, this framework shows you exactly what you need to know about how to stop any fights and put a lid on things from escalating.
Once you are in a calm place together, you can talk about the issue that needs to get resolved instead of it causing more frustration and ends up getting swept under the rug.
- HUGE Bonus #3:
Have you ever needed to have a difficult conversation but avoided it because you didn’t want to fight?
The language we use when we communicate with our partner is so important!
With this bonus, you can use these scripts and the specific words and phrases to have an influence on your partner instead of them feeling controlled.
What do you know exactly what to say to each other, you can:
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Trigger compassion and empathy instead of frustration and defensiveness.
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Help foster an environment where you can get your needs met effortlessly without nagging and prodding.
- Become united with your partner and attack a specific challenge instead of attacking each other.
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Make requests and share how you feel in a way that makes your partner WANT to respond.
- HUGE Bonus #4:
But what if you had a way to speak to one another that could immediately clarify how you felt and helped you to feel connected to your partner?
With the Immediate Understanding Process, you will discover the two-step formula to communicate in a way that clarifies any misunderstandings in order to create harmony and peace in the relationship.
When misunderstandings take place in the beginning of a conversation, it completely changes the trajectory of the discussion and can put it on a crash course for failure...
Without knowing how to clarify how you feel and what you meant, it can lead you to walk on eggshells whenever certain topics come up.
With this two-step formula, you'll discover how to quickly recenter and reconnect with each other by clarifying any misunderstandings.
- HUGE Bonus #5:
People mistakenly think that it takes time to rebuild trust, but the passage of time is not enough...
Whether there’s been damage done by infidelity, lies, deception, or addictions, there is a very specific way to rebuild trust.
Inside of this training, you will discover:
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The exact steps to rebuild trust and make it as strong or even stronger than it was before the breach.
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The #1 most important thing that you should look for when trying to decide if you can open up and bring your emotional wall down again without getting hurt.
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The most important things your partner can do if they have damaged the trust in order to fully rebuild it.
- How to handle moments of fear when a situation comes up that triggers fear and uncertainty.
- How to work together in a powerful, new way in your relationship to prevent future mistakes that break trust again.
- HUGE Bonus #7:
By taking advantage of this Black Friday deal, I'll be offering you 1-1 coaching on my favorite walkie talkie app, Voxer.
So what that means is that you can send me a voice message any day, anytime, and I'll respond to you with specific direction, tools, and guidance for you to implement for any situation that might be overwhelming you.
There is no replacement for hands-on help, and by reaching out when you need help will give you the support that can get you through a difficult moment with your partner.
- HUGE Bonus #7:
And with the hands-on coaching, I'll be able to support you in real time to integrate the tools into your relationship and help you solve the specific issues that you need help with.
Not only do you get the hands-on support as we work together on the call, these live group calls are so powerful because everyone else gets to benefit from your questions by gaining insights and understanding from our discussion.
This is one of the most powerful ways to work through any challenge you might be experiencing and it's at the highest level of help I can offer someone.
You're able to take the information from the Masterclass and bonuses and apply them yourself in your relationship, and on the coaching calls I'm there to support as an outside third party to help you apply these new skills and solve specific challenges.
Heart Centered Communication addresses the real CORE of relationship problems and brings back the passion, excitement, closeness, and fulfillment by focusing on what's BENEATH the surface...
focus on this section - how to demo HCC is what addresses emo disc, or the core of feeling close
One person in the relationship would get upset, frustrated or angry and react or lash out...
The other person would pull back, withdraw, and get quiet or avoid interactions and confrontation.
One person wanted to resolve things right then and there, while the other person needed some time to cool off and process things by themselves.
The struggles would often go unresolved and swept under the rug, and neither person would usually come back together and talk through things...
The more they got caught in these patterns, the more disconnected they became, which led to a lack of fulfillment and love in the relationship...
It was in these moments when couples would sometimes say things like, "I don't know if I am with the right person," "We are just so different from each other," or "I feel like I've just fallen out of love..."
No longer was I just hoping I'd say the right thing or give the best advice when couples came to see me (none of that works)...
The secret is that these tools create a strong sense of closeness and unite you and your partner on the same team so you're attacking the challenge, not each other...
When you’re emotionally disconnected, (when you're NOT feeling important, heard, understood, loved, respected), then you fight on the surface and the relationship decays.
All of these are just SYMPTOMS of deeper issues...
They are a clear sign that a couple is emotionally disconnected from one another.
The good news is that none of these things mean that you're with the wrong person...
All of these issues completely disappear when a couple is practicing Heart-Centered Communication...
That's a contractual, business, co-working type of relationship...
So without knowing the blueprint to get your needs met in a healthy, effortless way, where both partners support and give to each other freely, then you're going to struggle for the duration of your relationship...
Most couples have no idea how to get beneath the surface level and resolve the root of the problem, so they end up having same fights over and over again...
The less you know about how to connect with your partner, the more your relationship erodes away by the negative cycles you get stuck in...
...The good news is that ANYONE can learn these get-to-the-core communication skills (in a very short amount of time) once they are handed the step-by-step blueprint.
Jeff began hearing positive messages from her about how much he meant to her, how much she respected and appreciated what he did for her and the family.
Most of the time, when people call to work with me, they are in serious need of help...
Their relationship has deteriorated, their negative communication patterns have eroded the foundation, love, and spark in their relationship, and they have no idea what they can do (or if it's even possible) to restore what they once had...
...This was the case with Jeff and Katie – they reached out
because they were living separate lives and headed for divorce...
...they were TERRIBLE at communicating with each other.
Jeff avoided confrontation like the plague!
He hated to argue and fight with Katie, and every time she brought something up to him, he was afraid that things would escalate so he'd avoid her, withdraw, and disappear into the garage to work on something or get on his phone...
She would get so frustrated because he was always dodging her and any conversations with her, never willing to talk about anything real, and none of their problems would ever get solved...
She felt unloved and unimportant to him and couldn't trust him to be there for her when she needed him. He felt like he was failing and wasn't enough for her.
She didn't feel like a priority to him, and slowly their relationship began to decay...
Pressure would build up as they bottled things in, then they'd have fights where she'd get angry and frustrated with him because he was never there for her, and he'd get defensive and upset back at her.
They reached out to me after they had grown so far apart from each other that they had no idea how to get back to the way they used to be.
Using these tools, they could actually communication in a way that brought their spouse closer instead of causing a negative reaction.
Jeff wasn't really much of a deep communicator in the past...
He'd never really opened up and been vulnerable with Katie before and didn't really talk much about his feelings.
It just wasn't comfortable for him...
Just like many men, he didn't want to be seen as weak, so it was easy to keep his feelings to himself then go off to focus on some project.
Once I showed him how to communicate in the way that he could comfortably express himself, and exactly how Katie wanted to be spoken to...
...a light bulb went off for him and he learned how simple the process actually is.
...instead of just hoping that they don't lose the progress that they've made and fall back into old patterns...
This approach works in ANY relationship, no matter how far gone the passion, spark, and love currently is...
Merely hoping for a successful relationship is completely replaced by proven, actionable strategies and a plan that actually WORKS to create an intoxicating, exciting relationship.
24k to get married. how many couples who stay married are actually happy? the numbers are sad..
how much would benefit x 7 be worth?
client's pay 5k.
Here is the exact same system I use to help them have the rx of their dreams. I broked it all down and am giving it to you for less than the cost of a single session.
Go into the modules and bonuses
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What's it costing you to NOT have the tools to create the best rx. Stats on depression, physical costs of isolation from podcast Mayo clinic?
After years and years of applying these same tools with couples in my private practice, I want to make them available to people who will never be able to spend thousands of dollars to work with me directly.
This is why I created the Communication secrets masterclass
My clients pay me 5k and gladly so bc their relationship means the most to them.
I've put into a system of what I do with them from start to finish and here's what you're going to get. It's yours for just 297. 697